Ex-etiquette: Seeking equal custody
Q. All I want is to be part of my daughter’s life 50/50, but every time we go to court they just ask her stepmom, who is her attorney, and my ex-spouse, and both say no, so nothing different happens. What’s good ex-etiquette?A. As clarification for my readers who may not be familiar with the terminology, 50/50 refers to equal custody of your child after a break-up. However, there are two components to equal custody.One, equal time with your child, or physical custody.Two, the right to legally make a decision for your child, or joint legal custody.Operating from the premise that a child deserve...
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Kansas father charged with capital murder in death of 2 boys over the weekend
KANSAS CITY, Mo. — A Leavenworth father was charged Tuesday for allegedly killing two boys who were found dead in his home over the weekend.Donald Jackson Jr., 40, was charged with one count of capital murder in the deaths, Leavenworth County Attorney Todd Thompson announced during a news conference.Jackson remains in custody in Beckham County, Oklahoma, where he was arrested over the weekend after allegedly abducting his two young daughters. Before Jackson was apprehended, police found their older brothers dead.Jackson will eventually be extradited back to Kansas, Thompson said.Thompson decli...
The Kansas City Star
Movies buffs will get a laugh out of this new Lindy West book that asks bizarre questions about blockbuster films
In Lindy West’s new book, “Shit, Actually: The Definitive, 100% Objective Guide to Modern Cinema” (Hachette, $27), many important cinematic questions are asked. Such as, why is Laura Linney wearing a woolly hat to a church wedding in “Love, Actually”? Does the Hogwarts Express in the “Harry Potter” movies run year-round, or is it just twice a year to take the Hogwarts kids to and from school, and if so how does the witch who runs the snack trolley pay her bills? What exactly does being king of whatever the lion is the king of (in, duh, “The Lion King”) entail, and why should zebras and antelop...
The Seattle Times
Book review: Unger's 'Confessions on the 7:45' filled with twists, turns
“Confessions on the 7:45” by Lisa Unger; Park Row (352 pages, $27.99)———The scenario is not uncommon: You sit next to a stranger on a plane or a train and, before you know it, you are confiding an intimate secret or program. It seems the perfect confessional as neither of you ever plans to — or hopes to — see the other again. “Sometimes a stranger was the safest place in your life,” muses Selena Murphy, whose encounter with a stranger on a train leads to a vortex of pain.”“Confessions on the 7:45” succinctly emerges as a gripping story about marriage, parenting, families and revenge.Barely mak...
Barton Goldsmith: How will you do Halloween this year?
Oct. 31 has gone from scary fun to just plain scary. Adults may understand it, but the kids won’t. So it’s up to us parents to make them a Halloween that will be different but still let our kids celebrate in some fashion. All the members of my extended family have decided to stay at home and have a Zoom party for the kids (and a cocktail party for the adults). Yes, all the holidays will be different this year.In my village, there is one neighborhood that usually goes all out, and everyone goes to this one place (including out-of-towners) because of the great job it does with haunted houses, co...
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Living with Children: Getting over 'the hump'
Q: In a recent column, you identified toddlerhood as “the hump of parenting.” As a grandmother who managed to raise five kids who were out of the house in their early 20s and are responsible citizens, I could not agree more. Two of them, however, did not get over the hump with their kids and now have spoiled, difficult children whom I sadly do not enjoy being around. Do you have advice for how parents can recover from this condition with school-age and teenage children?A: The column in question prompted a slew of responses that echoed yours, so I’ve posted a link to it on the homepage of my we...
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NY's Cuomo opens movie theaters as coronavirus hot spots cool off but cancels a Brooklyn wedding with 10,000 guests
NEW YORK — Gov. Andrew Cuomo gave the green light for movie theaters to open outside of New York City on Saturday as he all but declared victory over the coronavirus hot spots that had threatened to spread into a wider flare up.Cinemas will be permitted to open on Oct. 23 in counties outside the five boroughs that have an overall COVID-19 positivity rate of less than 2% and that have no significant hot spots, Cuomo said at a midtown press conference.The movie theaters will be limited to 25% capacity or a maximum of 50 viewers per screen.Cuomo also said the state had served a health order on an...
New York Daily News
Will Bunch: 12-hour voting lines give me hope, even as America looks like a banana republic
Like most Americans, Stacy Bogan — a headshot and wedding photographer who lives in the sprawling Texas exurb of Mansfield, south of Dallas-Fort Worth — has had a rough 2020. While working to keep her studio afloat, her husband lost her job at the business services giant Cintas, which she blames on the mishandling of the COVID-19 pandemic. Mostly, the couple shelters at home — but not when Texas opened polling stations for early voting on Tuesday.Bogan was hardly alone in venturing out to vote at the very first opportunity. Standing in a line that wrapped all the way around a local courthouse ...
The Philadelphia Inquirer
A young mother, a cancer diagnosis, and a year of grieving her loss
MINNEAPOLIS — A year ago last August, Emily Hofher stretched out on the grass of Oak Hill Cemetery in south Minneapolis and struck a sassy pose, propped on an elbow, long legs crossed. She wore a blue dress printed with sailboats, and a jaunty white cap covering where she’d once had hair. Her husband, Rob Raub, snapped a photo.Emily had just picked out the spot where she would soon be interred, when cancer took her life. And she smiled, big and wide, even though she was far from ready to go, being the 44-year-old, newly married mother of a toddler.Emily’s irreverent sense of humor showed up ea...
Star Tribune (Minneapolis)
Living with Children: Saying 'no' too much?
Q: Our first child, a boy, just turned 2. Per your advice, he is toilet trained and eating whatever I serve. Before he was born, we determined that we were not going to raise a picky eater. Our problem isn’t our son; it’s my sister-in-law, who has three kids, the youngest of which is 4. She insists that my husband and I say “no” to our son way too much. Is that even possible? Our son is very active and determined to get his own way. Your advice would be greatly valued.A: First, I congratulate you on getting off to such a good start. These days, it is the rare child who is toilet trained on tim...
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