If your man hasn’t put a ring on your finger despite dating for years, perhaps he never will. Relationships where one partner is more invested than the other are common and it’s all about striking the right balance to keep it healthy.
But if you’re the only one to dream of tying the knot, relationship expert Bernardo Mendez suggests looking for signs that he will “never propose” to you.
7 signs you’re dating a man who will ‘never propose’
You wouldn’t want to be led on by a man with no plans to settle. If you find yourself in a tricky relationship that’s headed nowhere, consider the dating expert’s relationship advice on YouTube to save yourself the trouble, drama, and pain.
He has underlying issues
Remember a man with underlying issues will find it hard to commit to a life partner. Whether the issue stems from a troubled past relationship or childhood trauma, if he isn’t willing to get help, your relationship is what will suffer.
Bernardo says such men avoid working on unhealed pain and are often drowned in fears of commitment. You’re also fooling yourself by thinking you can be the “fixer” and resolve their problems.
He doesn’t know what he wants
You may be way ahead of your partner in terms of planning your future together.
Your partner may be in a different stage in life, yet to figure out what he wants, and getting hitched may not be his top priority.
You’re the only one visualizing your marriage
While you’ve imagined your wedding attire a zillion times while deciding on the venue, your man may not even have thought about popping the question.
If this applies to your relationship, it’s high time you considered walking out of it. Find someone with similar life goals, willing to marry and settle down.
He makes it your problem
If he gets defensive when you discuss marriage and behaves as if you’re the reason, take it as a warning sign.
If a man can’t bring himself to talk about your future together owing to his hidden fears, he’s never going to take the relationship forward.
When he values his freedom more than you
If your partner dreads the thought of “losing his freedom” rather than connecting with you on a deeper level and imagining a life together, he isn’t marriage material.
It’s highly unlikely he would share his life with you when it only revolves around himself.
He gives just enough to string you along
Bernado says, your partner may be stringing you along by offering bread crumbs knowing you would settle for very little until you muster the courage to walk out of the relationship.
If you’ve been dating for years and your man hasn’t considered a future together, he knows well you wouldn’t give up on your relationship.
As the dating coach says, this one’s on you and you must decide if your efforts are worth his level of commitment.
He confuses interdependence with weakness
According to the dating coach, committing to a man who views interdependence as a weakness will be hard to do for a lifetime.
Not only does he like being independent better, but such a person is unlikely to bond emotionally and never trusts their happiness with anyone but themselves.
Bernardo Mendez is a Relationship and Dating Coach for Women. He’s the founder and host of BernMendez.com, a platform dedicated to helping women navigate relationships and dating.
With over twelve years of experience, he’s been featured in a number of publications and accumulated millions of followers on social media.
